How I Said Good-bye

It’s that heartbreaking moment when you know.

You just know it.

But how can it be?

You don’t want to know it, or feel it, or even accept that change has happened.

One of the hardest parts of being an empath is knowing when a close relationship has shifted and the feeling of disconnection cuts like a knife. What did I do wrong? Did I say something to piss them off? Did I not give them enough attention? The kind of attention they expected from me? Do I smell strange, odd, or dysfunctional? Did I wake up on the wrong side of the bed? Is my zipper undone? Did I not comb my hair the right way? What!? What did I do to make YOU go away?

It is so easy to blame ourselves. The line, you know the one, you’ve probably heard it before – “It’s not you, it’s me” – can feel like utter bullshit. But, what if it is them? What if the dynamics of the relationship shifted because it is simply time to move on.

Relationships, short- and long-term, follow a natural course. This individual came into my life so I could experience something; you know, those things I’d experienced with her that I wouldn’t have with someone else. And what a blessing.

Today, I feel as though I have lost a close friend. It hurts deep within. This person may not even recognize the shift or be aware one took place. Odds are, one day she’ll see something that reminds her of me, and she’ll think, “Huh, it’s been a long time since I spoke with Cindy. I wonder how she is?”

Today, as I stood at my kitchen sink washing dishes and staring out over the garden, I blessed our relationship and silently said good-bye. My wish for her is to enjoy every moment and feel the unconditional love I extend to her. It’s okay. I’m an empath. I know everything will work out to the highest good for both of us.

Much love to all…

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8 Responses

  1. Debra Oakland

    Beautiful article Cindy. All we can do is bless them and release without blame or judgement. As I talk about in my book…new people will show up to audition for parts in our movie and many will move on.

    • ckkochis

      Thank you, Debra.

      You’re right. What is important is we bless ’em, love ’em and release them without blame or judgement. It’s our gift to our self, and all involved. And, shortly after I posted this comment, I received a beautiful message from a social media acquaintance who is interested meeting with me.

      Many blessings…

  2. Barb Parcells

    When this happens, I always remind myself that it takes two to make a relationship and I can’t always solve what is going on inside of the other person. All I can do is offer a prayer and keep being my authentic self.

    • ckkochis

      Well said, Barb. We are only responsible for how we feel, and the emotions we extend to others (even if it’s from a distance).

      Many blessings…

  3. Peggy

    Me, too. I’ve either had to walk away from relationships or sometimes simply allow them to drift apart. There’s an ebb and flow…like the tides…bless and release. <3

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